What Comes Next?

 In divorce, Self-care, Separation

Relationships and marriage are a journey; a journey of ups and downs. For the lucky ones, the ups tend to outweigh the downs. For some of us however, unfortunately, the downs outweigh the ups. When you’re feeling unhappy more often than not in a relationship, it might be time to start thinking about what comes next.

Being in a rocky relationship can be an emotional rollercoaster. If you’re feeling like you’re losing hope, it’s totally normal to be confused, sad and anxious. The stages between identifying a problem in your relationship or marriage and coming to a decision on what to do, are the hardest. But we are here to help. We want to help define some of the emotions you may be feeling and some of the decisions you may want to take based on the emotions you might be feeling.  

Emotions you may be feeling if your relationship or marriage is nearing its expiry date: 

  • Sad, upset & emotional
  • Anxious
  • Confused
  • Loss of love, compassion & affection for your partner 
  • Anger & frustration
  • Guilt
  • Feelings of being let down and disappointed
  • Having been cheated or played
  • Drifting apart

What’s important to remember is that everyone’s experience is different, so you may be feeling completely different emotions to what is listed above, or you may be feeling all of the emotions and more. It’s okay, and it’s totally normal. Whatever you’re feeling, is normal. The experience of moving on from a relationship or marriage is unique for everyone. If you are in a slump in your relationship or marriage, there may come a point at which you feel the need to make a decision of some sort – so listed below are some of the decisions associated with the above emotions. 

  • Do some research online about relationships and marriage and the stages that partners may go through and ways in which you can work on your relationship or marriage before giving up.
  • Discussing how you feel with your partner and trying to work on your relationship or marriage together. 
  • Telling a friend/family member/someone you can confide in and gaining some perspective on the situation and perhaps some advice/suggestions from someone you love and trust.
  • Seeking assistance from a divorce coach
  • Contact us to discuss co-parenting options. 
  • Seek the assistance of a co parenting site like Our Children to help organise your co parenting relationship
  • Confronting your partner about wanting a divorce.

The above options may not suit you, and that’s okay. As previously mentioned, this experience is unique for everyone. So, everything included in this article is totally objective and has been developed upon research. Our focus is on providing you with assistance both before you make a decision and after.  We can help you identify what you actually want – sorting through all of those feelings and emotions to help you make an actual decision (and that may not be to necessarily leave your partner).  We can help you with organising a separation, sorting out your co parenting options as well as helping you to get your life back on track – whatever that may look like for you.  If you are struggling with what this is get in touch to learn more. You never know how we may be able to help you.

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