Bad days are ok!
Do you remember what it was like when you separated? Did you feel pressure to put on a brave face, to smile and pretend everything was ok?
It is bizarre isn’t it?
You have just gone through one of the most emotional events a person can and yet people expect that you carry on like nothing has happened? I have often wondered why. Is it because from the outside people really do believe that “its for the best”? Or is it because people are uncomfortable? They don’t know how to behave or what to say; so instead they tell you to cheer up – “it’s the best thing really” and “its for the best”. But it isn’t (at least not immediately) and for most people getting told this only makes the situation worse.
Whilst I don’t profess to know the answer to why people behave this way – what I do know is that it is ok to be sad, angry, hurt, confused, lost and betrayed (well for that matter it is ok to feel anything). It is ok to take time to yourself, to cry and to feel. It is ok to take a day off from work because, today is a day you just can’t really face. It is ok to avoid going to those particular shops in case you run into them. It is ok to do whatever it is you want to do (well almost … as long as it is legal J).
At the end of the day what is important is that you take the time to allow yourself to go through whatever it is that YOU need to feel. This is your journey – walk, run, ride or skate your way through it anyhow YOU want.