Why should I pay?
Following on from the previous post, you may be wondering why you should have to pay to attend a mediation you didn’t request. That is fair enough. The other party asked for it, so shouldn’t they pay for it?
Perhaps they should. Yet if there is an issue that could be resolved at mediation, wouldn’t it be better for both of you (and your children) if it was resolved there? If you don’t the next step could be Court and if you don’t want to pay for mediation, in my experience Court will cost you a lot more than that.
I understand that the same argument can be used to argue that the person requesting it should pay – it will be cheaper for them as well to pay for both of you.
Mediation isn’t just about turning up. It is about commitment. Commitment to resolve the issues and reach a compromised outcome. This is often why the other party wants you to pay some of the mediator’s costs as well. They simply want to see that you are as committed to resolving this as they are.
That being said, it doesn’t mean you have to or, as in any good mediation, you can negotiate an alternate arrangement with the other party on how the fees will be paid. Perhaps they pay for the fees upfront and then get reimbursed when any property settlement is done. Or if there will be multiple mediations perhaps you pay one each. There are many different options – it is just a matter of thinking outside box.
If you would like to find out if mediation is right for you, you can book a time to chat here.