Don’t forget to smile this Christmas :-)
Is Christmas looking a little different for you this year? Perhaps this is your first Christmas since your separation or perhaps it is the current circumstances that mean you can’t travel to spend it with loved ones. Whatever your circumstance, being along at Christmas may sound isolating, daunting and not at all what you had in mind.
Being alone at Christmas can play havoc with your state of mind. You may find yourself going into a big spiral of hurt, sadness and confusion. But you can change this. Do you want to know how? Here are three (3) things you can do to change the way you think and feel:
If you have read any of my articles before you will know that I am a big believer of gratitude. Being thankful for what you have, the power and control over your current circumstances is one of the most powerful tools you will have to change your state of mind. Yep, things can be shit. But equally you can always turn those shit moments around and say, “Thank you for that lesson” and there is always something to be thankful for – sun, rain, water, food, shelter, a bubble bath, a good book…. You can always find something.
If you start small, writing down a list of 3 things you are grateful for each night – it can start to change the way you look at each day.
Spend time with friends
Friends are the family we get to choose. There have been a few times in my life where circumstances have arisen that mean I needed to move away from my family with whom I am usually very close. But when this happens you need to find a new network. These friends have become my new family. We share lots of our highs and lows together as a family usually would. So, make the most of it – ask what they have planned and if they aren’t doing anything invite them over. Cook your big Christmas lunch, celebrate and have fun.
Take yourself away
This is one of the best Christmas presents you can ever give yourself. Time away, indulging yourself in whatever way floats your boat. Are you someone who find indulgence by walking along the sand in bare feet with the sea lapping at your toes? Do you find indulgence sitting down reading a good book or taking a hot bubble bath? Whatever it is – do it! Don’t focus on the time of the year, focus on the time you have taken just for you and enjoy it!
Remember, gratitude and indulgence go hand in hand. I’ll drink to that. Cheers!