Choose your next move.
This morning I found that I had some time to myself (a rare occurrence these days). So I seized that opportunity and made my way to a local coffee shop with my journal in hand.
I never know what is going to come out when I sit there with a pen and my journal. Today I found myself writing about my learning’s so far. I sat there reflecting on the journey that I have travelled recently.
I have had conversations with many of you. I have also spoken with countless other people who are going through a separation. The number 1 question I am always asked is:
What do I need to do to get the other person to change [insert your own option here – i.e. their view on school, their decision about an overseas holiday, their mind on what time I can spend with ….] the options are endless.
My answer has always been the same. You don’t.
The power of you!
No one has a magic wand that enables you to wave it and automatically change another. If we did – don’t you think the leaders of the free world would have created world peace? The power lies in your ability to change you!
That may not be the answer that you want to hear but it is the truth. For some, it will be finally accepting that you can’t always have it your way. For others it will be learning to change the way that you communicate so that the message you want to portray is the message the other parent is hearing. It may simply be the art of compromise, of acceptance and understanding. More than ever though it will be learning to stop pushing buttons and to stop allowing other people to push yours.
We don’t have the power to change anyone.
Let’s make our future bigger and better than ever!
We only have the power to change:
- The way we react.
- How we communicate.
So why not start with that in mind?
Learn how to change the way you communicate through our Communicate with Purpose 6 week program. If you would like to find out more click here and schedule a chat.